ChinaA 25-year-old woman who is pregnant with her fifth child said that her husband wanted a divorce because he thought she was pregnant with a daughter again.
Hu, who works in a glass factory in Linhai, Zhejiang province, has four daughters and is eight months pregnant. Hu said her husband moved out of the apartment three months ago and refused to pay the rent, claiming “should get a divorce as soon as possible”. SCMP reported on 11/16.
“My husband wants a divorce because he looked at the shape of my belly and thought I was pregnant with a girl again,” Hu said. “He said he was afraid of having another daughter because he was their only son. If I can’t have a son, he will find another woman.”
Hu said the two were from a poor rural area in Guizhou province. They have lived together since she was 15 years old and gave birth to their first daughter in 2014, when she was 17. Hu agreed to divorce because he wanted to get out of the marriage.
“Divorce has both pros and cons. My children and I won’t have to suffer abuse again if we divorce,” Hu said, accusing her husband of frequent beatings and adultery while she was pregnant with her second child.
Hu said the couple agreed that the children would stay with their mother after the divorce. Husband will give 1,000 yuan ($140 per month) child support. The two will return to their hometown Guizhou to file for divorce. In China, if you want a divorce, you have to go to the place of household registration.
“Anyway, he still has a conscience. I thought he wouldn’t give the children a dime,” Hu said. “I will work hard, live frugally, to feed my children.”
The Lam Hai Women’s Union, the government’s women’s protection group, said it had offered to support Hu and was investigating allegations of domestic violence by her husband.
Hu’s story has been among the hottest topics on Chinese social media recently, with more than 5 million views on Weibo and 6 million on Douyin. Many people expressed concern and anger about the husband’s treatment.
“I was wondering why she would willingly give birth to a guy like that?” a person writes on Douyin. “The sex of the child depends a lot on the father. Why does he blame his wife?”, another commented.
“It’s the 21st century, I still don’t understand why some people prefer boys over girls,” one person wrote on Weibo.
The long-standing concept of male contempt for women in China has led to a gender disparity. Last year, the boy/girl ratio was 108.3 out of 100, down 9.4 from 2012. However, this is still higher than the world average of 103-107.
Earlier this year, another story also caused a stir on Chinese social media about a 21-year-old single mother who worked as a courier to raise her three-year-old daughter after her husband died. She said her husband died in a traffic accident, and the mother and daughter were evicted from her husband’s house because her mother-in-law was not satisfied when her grandchild was a girl.
Hong Hanh (Follow SCMP)